Today has been a mixture of emotions. Even now, I am unsure as to what I am feeling.
Today is my wonderful partners Birthday. 250.00 worth of flight vouchers and a 3lt bottle of Blue Heaven topping make some pretty awesome presents! (You can mail me the “Cool Girlfiriend Of The Year” award.) We went out for a dinner that was, in all honesty, mediocre. But I got to spend some time with him at least, so for that I am grateful. His day at work seemed to be good for the most part so I guess the birthday luck travelled with him this morning!
However, while we were out the news reached us that an old work colleague, just in his early twenties, had been a fatality in a single-vehicle accident at our local weir. He lost control of his vehicle, leaving it unrecognisable. Lloyd was some one that while I only worked with for a short time, left an impact. You didn’t leave a shift with him unless you were smiling, and that was something that was noticed by staff and customers alike. He was a valued member of his church, his community, his friends and his family.
It made me think of what his family would now be living with, and the void left behind. Lloyd was a careful and conscientious driver, firmly believing that speeding was not a risk to take. If these are the questions rambling through my mind, what must be going through his family’s? Instantaneous death may be a comfort to his family, but you have to wonder – is it the comfort they need?
Before dinner had even ended, we received news that another friend’s wife had passed over as well. To be fair, she was in palliative care but I do not believe that would have made it easier for anyone. I am sure Sammy and his family are feeling the grief, loss and loneliness that Lloyd’s family are experiencing now. Sammy is an elderly gentleman, and I now wonder how he is going to get along without his wife.
Sombre as dinner was, we still managed to have some laughs and smiles, and ended it on a note that wasn’t too sad. I don’t know who was acting harder, Daniel or I. What do you do when a birthday celebration is marred? I know that for the rest of our lives we are going to remember the sadness of two families as we celebrate the birth of Dan.
On the way home, I received news again, however this one was decidedly happier: A friend of mine and his wife had just welcomed their son, Malakye, into the world. A bouncing baby boy who I am sure will be just as beautiful, valued and loved as his parents are. His Dad, Michael, helped me through a difficult stage many years ago and it is something I have never forgotten. Welcome to the World, Malakye. I hope your life is as blessed as your parents is!
Tonight, even though I am about as religious as a brick, the quote “The Lord Giveth and the Lord Taketh Away” has been ringing around my head. Two souls have departed this world, to go to wherever it is they do… but a tiny, new one with the potential to rule the world has entered.
It has shown me that the world always turns; as people’s time is up, some one else’s is just beginning. While someone has had their heart ripped out, somebody else’s has just doubled in size.
Each day is a precious gift. What it brings will never be known until it happens. It may start with sunshine, and end in rain. Or a storm may greet you in the morning, just to leave you with a rainbow.
To Lloyd’s and Sammy’s families – nothing but the utmost sympathy is felt by all in our household.
To Lloyd – I hope you have found what you have searched for your entire life.
To Mrs. Cirillo – I hope your pain and suffering has lead you to a greater place.