This is a post that I was trying to avoid doing. It is something that makes me rage beyond belief and we all know how my posts get when I’m a-ragin’.
I was bullied from grade Prep, right through to Year 12. I copped it in employment. It seems I am unable to escape the people who don’t get the message that being a douche-bag is not an admirable quality!
I am 25 years old, and finished high school in 2004. Yes, eight years ago. I am still living with the damage and scars that school-yard bullies did to me.
I am paranoid about sending my children to school, I am scared for what they may go through, I am scared that they are going to end up adults with issues that have been caused in Primary school that won’t go away.
The excuse “A bully is only unhappy” is bull shit! Do you hear me, el excuse makers? BULLSHIT!!! There is no reason for you to bring another person down and make their lives miserable, even if yours is!
I was told once, that the reason a particular person was horrible to me was because her parents never wanted her. I should be understanding and accept that her life is not very happy. Apparently, this gave the person the right to abuse me, mentally, physically, and do all she could to screw up my schooling life.
I was threatened with school equipment, I had chisels thrown at me, paint thrown on me and lacrosse sticks aimed at my head. When I eventually fought back, it was me who got in trouble for it, because I should have ignored it. Do you know how hard it is to ignore something that happens every day for four years? It is impossible.
I became the aggressive and depressed kid that is a stereotype for high school massacres – I dragged my ass to a hell hold every day and resented my peers, my teachers, my school and myself more and more every day. I became sullen and unhappy, and a change in school just exacerbated the issues. Apparently, going to school in a rival town made me easy fodder.
Mediation is bullshit – all it does is appease a teachers conscience and leaves the bullied open for more intimidation and humiliation – but this time, you get others in on it because the bully will be twice as pissed. I remember having to go to mediation, and I came out to worse and more horrid abuse.
A schools “zero-tolerance policy” is bullshit as well – That is not how it is, no matter what you are told. My school should have changed it to “we have a zero-tolerance policy unless your parents are influential and give lots of money and are friends with the teachers outside of school.”
Nothing is going to change until people realise that being a bully is not “cool” or accepted. Until the Anti-Bullying policies are enforced and not just written We are going to live in a world where bullies will always win.
Until people like me, people who are and were bullied, stand up and refuse to be treated like the we are and were, nothing will change. It’s time for people to listen to the bullied, instead of the bullies. It’s time for people to give power to the bullied and not the bullies.
It’s time for change!!!