Ramblings of a Ringless Wife

Ringless Wife, Messy House, Cluttered Brain. All in a standard day.

June 7 – The “I DO” Program

on June 7, 2012

Before I get into this post, I would like to highlight a few things:

  • This is MY blog, so MY opinions
  • If you disagree, feel free to comment, but do not tell me I am “wrong” as that is something I wouldn’t say to you.
  • I am happy to discuss this post with you if you would like to, but I won’t enter into a degrading conversation

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s begin.

I have a large and diverse family – I drew up a mock wedding guest list and had over 100 guests just from  my side. In my family, it is safe to say that roughly 15% are gay.

My Uncle Darrin, who lives in QLD, and I were discussing Gay Rights yesterday and he made a comment that really drove it home to me:
“You’re a Ringless Wife, yet you still have rights.”

I was a little blown away by this statement, as it’s nothing I had thought of before. It’s true, if Daniel and I were to split up, I would be entitled to half the house and contents, even though we aren’t married. Also, if we were to get married, it wouldn’t be a big thing in the eyes of the general populace, as we have a right to be married and be happy. We are “living in sin,” and have been for six years now, yet no-one bats an eyelid. Defacto relationships, which were once a serious no-go zone, are now so common place that it is on official forms to fill in.

The bible talks against living in sin, but no one fights against that now. We now have rights;  So why don’t my gay family members?

Recently, a new site has popped up called Equal Love, and from that one so has Equal Love Brisbane. These groups have been setting up rallies in Sydney and Melbourne to help show that the GBLT community has had enough of being down trodden and treated like second class citizens. At this point, I have not seen a lot of rallies or the like in Brisbane,  but I look forward to the time when I see one, or when I get a photo of my Gay Cockroaches parading down the CBD to fight for their rights.

All of the pages and sites regarding Gay Rights in Australia have boosted significantly due to the “I DO” program that is being run by Sunrise. Unfortunately, they are also copping a lot of backlash.

The “I DO” program is a petition to fight for the rights of the GBLT community to be married to whomever they wish, whether or not they both have bajingos or doodles or a matching duck beak. They are campaiging for basic human rights – the right love who they want, be with who they want, and be happy with who they want. Happiness is not privilege, it’s a right.

My Uncle has said:
While the Equal Marriage Rights debate has been somewhat sabotaged by the controversy over Civil Unions here in Queensland, more work needs to be done in Brisbane to highlight the only real change for equal rights is to the Federal Marriage Act. Marriage is a federal issue and not a state one. I do not support Civil Unions as I believe they only further entrench discrimination against people of the gay and lesbian community. Why should my relationships be treated any differently to those of my brother or sister or for that matter, my parents? My brother and his wife were married on a beach in NSW but it is still a marriage. My sister and her husband were married in a park but it is still a marriage. I continually feel that I am being discriminated against because I am gay! I support the view of Justice Kirby that I too feel like a second class citizen in my own country! EQUAL RIGHTS ARE A HUMAN RIGHT!

I have signed the petition, and I hope you do too. What would you do if it was your child, and they wanted to get married – and you had to stand by and watch them have no rights? One day, my babies are going to grow up in a world that views all people as the same – but to do that, we need to stand together. We need to rally in the major cities, we need to sign any petitions we can, we need to do all within our power to help give basic human rights back to a community that has been stripped of them.

What can you do to help? I’ve added links below where you can register your support for the GBLT community. It  takes only a minute of time, and, in all honesty, support is the biggest super power you have. Never underestimate the power of support.

You can thank SUNRISE for their support here
You can sign the petition here
You can help be a force behind a Brisbane rally here
You can support the GETUP movement here
You can support the Wipeout Homophobia movement here


18 responses to “June 7 – The “I DO” Program

  1. Rina says:

    Great work, you are so not wrong, Equal rights is Equal rights..
    Thankyou for taking the time to express your feelings. 🙂 xx

    • Kloi-Jayd says:

      Thanks Rina! Because it’s such a controversial issue at the moment I have taken a little while to write it – but when your Uncle asks for your help, you do what you can, right?
      Thanks for reading Sugarplum!!!

      • Uncle D says:

        Rina, thank you for your support. It’s important that people know what’s really going on. Please spread the word as widely as you can!!!

  2. Uncle D says:

    You make me cry!!!!! If only everybody was as lucky as me to have such a beautiful, wonderful, loving, caring and adoring niece like you. I am so proud of you!!!!!! Thank you for being you!!! 🙂 XXXX

  3. Nice post. I’m all for equal right for ALL people!

    • Kloi-Jayd says:

      Exactly! No one person is more deserving of rights than another. Thanks for reading!!! xx

    • Uncle D says:

      Thank you SharingmemyselfandI for your support. It’s important that people know what’s going on. Share with as many people as you can, write to your local federal member, it all helps. People power is the key to achieving change

  4. Civil partnerships have been a step on the way in the UK to equality, but now we are moving to equal marriage. I hope in Australia the interim step is not necessary. Sweden has equal marriage in church, though homophobic churches are not compelled to marry gay people. Why not go straight to that position? I would not want to force churches to do things against their “conscience”, just to enable.

    • Kloi-Jayd says:

      I didn’t know that about Swedish churches, I think that is a much better system! Thanks for reading, I’m about to head over to your blog now so I will see you on the comments board at some stage!

      • Uncle D says:

        Hello Mrs Kuhne,

        Cos it’s true, I Do, I Do,I Do I Do!!!!! 🙂

      • Uncle D says:

        Swedish churches aren’t the only ones. Last week the Danish Parliament voted to allow the Lutheran Church to offer more than just blessings putting it on par with Iceland and Sweden How progressive is that??!! 🙂

  5. mum says:

    Well done chicken little, I raised you well and must say at this moment I am very proud of who you have grown into.. xoxoxo

    • Kloi-Jayd says:

      LOL ty momma. as I said, it was one i didn’t really want to write because of how high on my horse I can get. But when Uncle D asked me I couldn’t say no. it was a great learning piece for me 🙂 x

  6. Christina Kuhne says:

    well I am gob-smacked such intelligent comments from one so young.. I believe everyone should “live and let live” we choose our lifestyle and let others choose theirs… Look at the person and not their lifestyle accept them for who they are and not what they represent.
    Your friend Mrs Kuhne lol

    • Kloi-Jayd says:

      Hi Mrs Kuhne!
      I like the “live and let live” motto as well. As long as they are not trying to interfere with my rights, why should I attempt to stand in the way of theirs?
      Lots of Love

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