Ramblings of a Ringless Wife

Ringless Wife, Messy House, Cluttered Brain. All in a standard day.

May 20: Changing your appearance

Have you ever had an insane urge to just do an extreme over haul of the way you look?

I’m not talk about a new shirt; but a dramatic, confronting image change?

I’ve been thinking about this for months. I wish I had the balls to just do a complete change and completely overhaul my whole look and image.

I’m told I’m pretty “vanilla.” My look never changes much, I always have a similar style hair cut and way of dressing. I wonder what these people would do if I changed my image to one that I want.

I always think about “punking/funking” up my look a little bit. Lose the blonde highlights, go jet black. Add a few more piercings my face, put some stretchers in my lobes, wear darker and more striking make up. Completely changing the image I have spent a long time cultivating.

But, as I said above, I just don’t have the stones to do it. The most extreme I tend to go is a couple of fluoro pieces of hair that I get done every now and then. It doesn’t help that I know if I was to change as I want to, my job prospects would be considerably dimmer. I am not ignorant, or being discriminatory here, but I do know that the image I want to project isn’t wanted my managers and owners of stores.

There are some aspects of the “emo” look that I would love to emulate. I love the mix of goth and skate that some of the girls do manage to pull off without looking like a try-hard. To be honest, that’s something I am scared of looking like.

I just think I want a bit of an “edge” to my look. Something that makes people look at me and think “Wow! She’s rocking that look!” but at the same time, won’t have Dan singing “Tragedy!” every time he sees me (which is what he tends to do anyway).

I want to create a look that works for me and seems to have been made for me. Maybe taking little pieces of a myriad of fashions and cultivating a look that I feel comfortable in that isn’t as “vanilla” as I seem to be now.

I’ve thought about taking an “easy” route and playing with fake stretchers to see if I like the look enough to make permanent modifications. I think I would like to have a new pieve of metal somewhere on my face, to replace the one I had to take out a little while ago – well, I didn’t have to take it out, I just stopped loving it.

And there in lies the next problem – I don’t want to make this whole image and then stop loving it like I normally do and be left with a look which I hate and just can’t rock out.

What are your thoughts on changing your image? Have you? Would you? Could you?

DO you have any ideas on things that I could maybe do as a less permanent change but still a tester?


April 2: Changing things up…

So far, there have been a few nights in which I haven’t posted but have the next morning.
I have found that the posting every night has been more of an impact that I had first anticipated.

Some one who is a blogger said to me, make sure Blogging runs around your life, not your life around blogging – and that’s not what I have been doing for the last three months. I’ve been avoiding going places because I would have to blog, I would have to research, I would have to find a topic.

And last night, when I realised that I wasn’t going to blog because I was feeling so resentful toward it, I knew that things had to change. Something had to give, because I love this page, I love how my words pop up and that there is a piece of me in the Web that will stay around until such a time as the net no longer exists; but the resentment was building ever so slowly.

So I was laying in bed last night and ran through a myriad of options:

Shut down the page? No. That was impossible, I have too much to achieve on here.
Post once a week? No. The idea is that I have a post for every day of the year.
Spend a few hours and get a week or two’s blogs posted so I can have some time off? Maybe.

It took me a long while but I think I have come up with a solution that means I still will have a post for every day, but I will regain back some of my life and start to love the page again.

Starting today, I will only be posting every second day. But on this second day, you will be getting two blogs.

It’s something I thought long and hard about, before deciding. Would I be letting myself down? Would I be letting readers down? Does this decision equate me to giving up?

I decided that the answer to all of these questions was “No.”

I am not letting myself down – there will still be 365 posts by the end of the years.
I am not letting readers down – A burnt-out and resentful blogger is definitely not nice to read.
Does this mean I am giving up – Hell NO! It just means that I have recognized that I have to find a way to juggle my blog and my life in a way that neither of them suffers, as they have been.

I hope you can all understand this, and I hope that those of you who read this will still come back, even though I am not flooding your email or FB with the posts.

Lots of Love

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